Liveblog: Mind The Gap launch party – what you missed

Happen to miss out on last night’s Mind The Gap launch party liveblog, or wondering how Mind The Gap can help you get through your quarter-life crisis? Catch up here with Clueless’s breakdown to your soon-to-be favourite life coaches…

At a glance:

  • New lifecoaching organisation, Mind The Gap, launches
  • MTG aims to solve the problems of todays 20 and 30-somethings, like the QLC
  • Renowned life coach and psychologist Dr Oliver Robinson talks about the reasons for the rise in QLC-ers
  • “MTG is a genuine niche for QLC support and discussion”, says Doc Robinson
  • mtgcoaching.co.uk/

8.34pm: The chief culprits…

Courtesy of Mind The Gap

8.24pm: But after getting together with her friend Emily, they turned their hobby and passion – bringing music to life – into a business…

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8.06pm: Check out the Mind The Gap team here

7.55pm: Really great speech by Dr Robinson. If you want to check out his research, start here. It’s all very sciency.

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Courtesy of Oliver Robinson

7.38pm: The unveiling of the MTG logo! MTG coach Alice Stapleton (who we interviewed here) says the logo “reflects the gaps we all stumble into in life – whether in relationships, careers, or finances – and is a warning for this generation. We’re here to guide you round them.”

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Live Blog: (500) Days of Summer

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Ever wanted to see the quarter-life crisis on screen? Well, this could be your chance

Hey everybody, feel free to join us for our liveblog of (500) Days of Summer at 7pm tonight! People say it shows a #QLC and we’ll be deciding for ourselves. If you want to join in, just tune in to Film4 at 7 and check out the blog here.

UPDATE: The blog is now over, but you can take a look at the link above! Enjoy

The Quarter-life crisis in film

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Image: Wikimedia Commons

When it comes to the quarter-life crisis, it can sometimes feel like no-one understands what you’re going through. But maybe that’s not the case. Maybe you yourself saw a quarter-life crisis while you were growing up, and didn’t notice.

You see, according to the most respected of sources (Wikipedia) at least one or two film directors have tried to tackle the topic. Big life shake-ups, emotional climaxes and angst; it’s the stuff of high drama. But who’s really nailed the experience?

Let’s examine the evidence.

Garden State (2004)

Zach Braff’s Andrew Largeman certainly has a few crises in his life, and his job prospects are pretty grim. A return trip to his home town leads Andrew to question his place in the world, and how he lives in it. However, his issues seem more drawn from grief and over-medication – a crisis, but not necessarily a quarter-life one.

Andrew: You know that point in your life when you realize the house you grew up in isn’t really your home anymore? All of a sudden even though you have some place where you put your shit, that idea of home is gone.

QLC rating: 1/5

Silver Linings Playbook (2012)

I mean, it’s difficult not to have some sort of emotional crisis when you realise you and Jennifer Lawrence aren’t best friends yet. And her co-star Bradley Cooper’s forced return to his parental home in Silver Linings might ring a few bells for any graduates still looking for work and struggling with a curfew.

Despite this, it’s hard to say there’s exactly a quarter-life crisis in this film. Silver lining – Jennifer Lawrence is still great.

Pat: How old are you?

Tiffany: Old enough to have a marriage end and not wind up in a mental hospital.

QLC rating: 2/5

Vicky Cristina Barcelona (2008)

“She doesn’t know what she wants – she just knows what she doesn’t want.” Sound familiar? Still, it’s hard to identify with Scarlett Johanssen’s Christina too much, seeing as she basically drops out of an extended ménage-a-trois with Javier Bardem and Penelope Cruz from mere apathy. It’s a hard life…

Rebecca Hall’s Vicky is a more interesting prospect. Practical and traditional and engaged to the reliable Doug, Vicky’s actually seems pretty sure what she wants. But when she sees her humdrum future stretched out in front of her, she begins to change her mind…

QLC rating: 3/5

High Fidelity (2000)

“It would be nice to think that since I was 14, times have changed.” John Cusack’s Rob Gordon is a man who never grew up; his girlfriend has grown away from him and he can’t escape the cycles of juvenility that keep screwing up his life. Novelist Nick Hornby has a knack for capturing vaguely adolescent male angst, and this adaptation of his most famous work doesn’t disappoint in that regard.

High Fidelity is about a lot more than the quarter-life crisis of course, but this quote from Rob really sums up a lot of concerns many people have:

I can see now I never really committed to Laura. I always had one foot out the door, and that prevented me from doing a lot of things, like thinking about my future and… I guess it made more sense to commit to nothing, keep my options open. And that’s suicide. By tiny, tiny increments.

QLC rating: 4/5

The Graduate (1967)

The earliest, the greatest and the filmiest, The Graduate tells a timeless tale of not knowing what to do after university. Benjamin Braddock (Dustin Hoffman)’s options of a career or graduate school make him anxious, and he becomes seduced into an affair with an older woman. And with the famously ambiguous final shot of an apparently euphoric ending, it’s unclear whether Benjamin ever finds exactly what he’s looking for.

Benjamin: I’m just…

Mr. Braddock: Worried?

Benjamin: Well…

Mr. Braddock: About what?

Benjamin: I guess about my future.

Mr. Braddock: What about it?

Benjamin: I don’t know… I want it to be…

Mr. Braddock: To be what?

Benjamin: [looks at his father] … Different.

QLC rating: 5/5

And finally…

(500) Days of Summer (2009)

Well, why don’t we evaluate it together? Tomorrow at 7pm Film4 is showing (500) Days of Summer and we’re liveblogging it on Storify!

Check back soon for more details.

Quarter-life crisis in the media: What are the papers saying?

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 Lately we’ve spotted a lot of intriguing media coverage of the quarter life crisis in all its different forms.

Instead of you having to bookmark 24/7 and trawling through all the weekend supplements, blogs and magazines, here’s our round-up of this month’s finest quarter-life crisis stuff. (Check out last month’s too if you missed it)

Top 3 things you should read this month

1) We liked this Guardian article about a 33 year old journalist on the verge of growing a ponytail and buying leather trousers.

I’m having a midlife crisis in my 30s. Is that normal?

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What we learnt: That mid-life crises are starting earlier than ever. Maybe once you’re over your qlc, you’ll  be sorted enough not to have an mlc? Here’s hoping because we’re not sure we’ll be able to afford a motorbike given the current job prospects.

2) Buzzfeed always does good , and hilariously true, commentary on the 20-something existence. As well as anthropomorphised cats, obviously. Their latest QLC post has some pretty sound advice.

 

15 Things You Need To Stop Doing During Your Quarter-Life Crisis

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What we learnt: We should stop worrying so much about the future, that we should be less hard on ourselves and most importantly, as illustrated by Buzzfeed above, make sure we have good friends who don’t drain every molecule of joy from our bodies.

The Buzzfeed screenshot above says it all. We really don’t have any room for Diana-inspired Elton John lyrics in our lives right now. (Although if you would like to listen to some Elton, here you go)

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Here’s Elton looking pretty into the music in a great shirt. He probably didn’t have a quarter-life crisis.

 

3) The quarter-life crisis is the cause of a campaign against in Singapore. The cost of living  there is so high (sounds familiar, Londoners?) that four university students have started a ‘The Next Stop’ movement to get people talking about the difficulties young people face when they leave education.

 

Singaporean fresh graduates: Quarter-Life Crisis

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An extract from the article in which 24-year-old Lee Jingwei talks about her qlc:

 “Our culture [in Singapore] values high salaries, status and prestige. It makes us disconnected from reality; that when we graduate, we are actually not very valuable. So I think we just need to eat some humble pie, be willing to learn in any job, and then plan our life as we go along,”

What we learnt: The  qlc is global and that there are lots of people writing about their experiences all over the world, like this Asian-American qlc-sufferer.